ARE WE HELPING?

So the trending topic SUSHANT SINGH RAJPUT’S suicide, it was actually heart breaking to her the demise of such a great actor, he was one of my favourites and i was kind of paralysed after hearing the news but the truth is he was going through a lot maybe, no one knows the real reason behind his act. He will always stay in our hearts and loving his acting skills were irresistible.

Now lets move on to the second part of story, right after Sushant’s RIP story everyone had the picture mentioning I AM HERE FOR YOU, TALK TO ME, WE GOTTA FIGHT, SPEAK UP. But do we actually want to? I opened my whatsapp and saw long paragraphs on groups about listening and supporting. First of all someone who has been under mental pressure and is depressed won’t care about your formality and if you would have actually been there on the first place maybe he/she had a better mental health. “you should take care of your mental peace , having six packs and unfit mind makes no point” one of my friend’s sentence, bhai koi depression ko khud bulane thodi gya hai , it is very easy to say I’m here for you but no one actually listens. Try sharing your financial problem with someone or your devastated relationship story or family issues that person will frame something even larger than yours and will just say yaar tu toh fir bhi sahi hai and will depart with a smile or maybe mock you or blame you for not carrying things wisely.

In today’s millennial world most of us are stuck, see a blurred path ahead and used to over thinking. Most of the times, we think so hard, feel so much pressure that we actually consider it part of our lifestyle. Its is not easy to open up I’m saying that it is impossible but surely very tough because sometimes you don’t know what all feelings and incidents are giving you such feeling of loneliness and numbness. When depressed you actually push people away maybe because you don’t want to be with anyone anymore, how is it possible to share stuff then? If you don’t like sharing your personal life with people its okay being depressed doesn’t mean you have to open up in front of people whom you never liked or someone who has never shown initiate and is randomly interested in your life., when depressed you don’t feel happy or sad you don’t know exactly what to do, how you feel . How is it even possible to tell people about your condition when you yourself aren’t sure of it?

The best way I would suggest is to write down all your feelings, maintain a journal write down about your feelings how so ever puzzled they maybe YOU ARE STRONG get that.I know when depressed you have no fantasies left but LIVE maybe to discover some, think of people whom you love, who love you, your family. Follow your hobbies, set attainable goals reward your efforts, try meditating. Do not pile yourself up with anti depressants without doctor’s prescription, challenge negative thoughts. Talk to yourself look in the mirror share your feelings with yourself, because no one can understand you better than yourself, it’s you who can bring about real change in your self, all that people can do is distract you for sometimes but to cope up your stress and problems you need to put in efforts on your own. Don’t hurt yourself if you feel that urge contact a professional, a psychiatrist or a counsellor, because your so called friends, the  hypocrites of this society won’t help but yes i bet they can provide the best ever formality . I know my friends would be hurt after reading this but I’m sorry this is what world is.

One more thing i read was something about DON’T FEEL ASHAMED OF YOURSELF, bhai jab tumne pilot sentence me hi shame laga diya toh insaan bolne se pehle hi Sharma jaayega. We all have been sharing such stories it is actually kind of everyone to say that but rather than saying this all maybe if we support that friend without letting him or her know that you are in depression we are helping you I’m your psychiatrist for the day would actually help maybe a bit.

Some more points focused on that group were about instagram pages. Someone said that where were the pages before who are now sharing helpline numbers . actually those pages were always there. If someone has ever tried searching about best possibe ways to commit suicide or how to die on goggle must be knowing this, you will get a long list of contact numbers and emails. We just see what is important to us, kabhi dhyaan diya hot oh 13reasonswhy se pehle bhi 13reasonwhy.info ka intro dete the. Until we want something we never bother ourselves with such stuff,  there have always been some pages focusing on mental health, spreading positivity but they rarely attract us because we like stuff which is in gold and pastel. Talking about really popular meme pages we cant expect them to focus on mental health all the time because that is not their job, all they do is pick up the trendiest thing and post. Also the problem is not just depression there are plenty other neglected topics, lets talk about LGBT community pride month se pehle koi meme wala share kar rha tha? George Floyd se pehle was any meme page talking about racism? I believe NO, because this isn’t their thing they are no one to blame because group me share toh hum bhi meme hi krte hai. It is easy to blame but hard to introspect.

I was planning from long to write on this topic but couldn’t post it and it hurts to post on the day of demise of one of the bollywood stars. Sushant even your leaving away gave a message.