crushes, infatuation aur pyaar

"Hey! Look at that guy omg he got six packs ahhh I wish we were together", "Isn't she too pretty, kaash set ho jaaye" these are some talks which we do with our friends on regular basis. Being teenagers it's really difficult to stay way from attractions by opposite sex. Crushes are something which happen almost every time you see an attractive guy or girl. while writing this post I came to know that crushes are not mere crushes they too have categories like our lipstick shades . one could have a crush on a teacher, celebrity, clown of your college (I too had once), a frined, unspoken guy or girl maybe your instagram follower, fictional character(mine is Edward twilight wala), a senior, junior. Having a crush is fun and better than affairs at least you don't have to worry about commitments. But the real drama starts when your crush too has a crush on you. For some it may be a daydream come true or the best part of life but what I believe is that it's better to have just crush rather than a relationship with that person because relationships never run without love and love doesn't happen in a day.

Going through some unread messages I realized that what people want these days is not love or connection what they want is a relationship so that they could boast about their partner and many just want to time pass out of boredom. I love you because you are the most beautiful girl i have ever seen or you are the most handsome hunk ever met, is it really love? I think love is when you love that person for what he or she is from within. You don't love your crush you actually like them. psychology says that it takes 4 months to forget your crush but love lasts forever.

Some teenagers take their relationship to a next level ad prove the world that love exists by marrying one another but in maximum cases an end is seen which sometimes breaks off the soul of loyal partner. Most of the time infatuation is what we call LOVE.
Infatuation is falling in love with or becoming extremely interested in someone or something for a short time.
A number of symptoms show that one is in the trap of infatuation, some of them are:

• That person is the focus of attention you just can't divert your mind. He/She is always on your mind.
• Everything reminds you of them. Some songs take you to another world their world .
• If they’re all you can talk about, it’s safe to say you’re infatuated. Love isn't obsession, lust is.
• no one not even your dear darlings can understand why you are with them. people don't see it as a perfect match but for you that person is life.
• Thats the best thing ever happened to you but listen, it’s not the best thing that’ll ever happen to you. Loving someone isn't supposed to be the highlight of your life, though, it feels amazing, the journey through life is what matters.
• You think they’ll cheat on you or leave you for someone else. if this is love, you shouldn't be worrying. Love is confidence.
• the behavior of the person in infatuation changes drastically. Mood swings become common, the person alternating between an unbelievable ecstasy and unbearable depression.
•  The loss of a partner is unimaginable and debilitating to a person in infatuation. Love is prepared to make sacrifices. A person who is in true love is prepared even to leave the partner if it is required to ensure his or her happiness.
  

What teenagers mostly consider as love these days is actually infatuation in maximum cases. There is a broad gap between the two.

• Love develop gradually over time but it takes a second for infatuation to occur. Watching someone for the first and falling in love is something what looks good in movies rarely in real life. I think one can't love anyone without knowing him or her.
• Love is lot more than physical attraction but infatuation got to do lot with physical. If your partner never asked you to remove your shirt congrats he got some genuine feelings.
• Infatuation is intense but short lived whereas love is comfortable and long lived.
• Love is when you both cut down that me and you thing when things turn into us .
• Infatuation makes a big deal out of small things love let's it go.
• infatuation thinks love should be perfect, love knows that it is not but that hardly matters.
• Infatuations make you say love u love u about 100 times a day love doesn't demand that.
• Infatuation will distract you from your goals love will push you to go and get your goal.
• Infatuation is show off love isn't.
• infatuation tumhaare bina mar jaauga and love is tumhaare saath maruga.
• love helps in creating and glorifying your identity but infatuation kills it.

Infatuations are beautiful in fact the most beautiful thing for us the young teenage group but never ever let your infatuation harm you and in some lucky cases infatuation is the first step to true love. Just let your soul live free infatuation got too much of happiness may be for a short time but yes those days are literally lovable just don't let your partner be a drug for you.  If already broken so just wait time is the ultimate tool to heal your soul and just wait for the right person who will come as a magician and stick all your parts together and that would be the perfect fairytale and the perfect beginning.